Sometimes I think I'm just plain ornery because I seem to avoid things that everybody else really wants to do. I decided to make a list of them just to show myself what a contrarian I am. This is not a bucket list of things I would like to do, it's a list of things I don't care if I never do no matter how close I come to getting the chance.
Things I had the opportunity to do but didn’t and don’t regret:
1. Visit the Eiffel Tower.
2. See a production of an Andrew Lloyd Weber show.
3. Go to Disney World.
4. Sit through a symphony.
5. Go skiing in the Alps.
6. Go to a rock concert.
These are wonderful projects, things that anybody should want to do I suppose, but for the life of me I don't really want to do any of them. Before I began to feel bad about myself I decided to make another list, a list of things I'm pleased to say I have done and have treasured memories of.
Things I have done that make me happy to think about:
1. Read all of Don Quixote.
2. Visited Stonehenge.
3. Walked through Roman ruins in Switzerland.
4. Saw Ralph Bellamy in Sunrise at Campobello, Andy Griffin in No Time for Sergeants, Jack Lemmon in Tribute, John Lithgow in M. Butterfly, Kevin Kline in Cyrano de Bergerac, Ian McKellan in Wild Honey, Jane Fonda in 33 Variations, Sutton Foster in Anything Goes, Bernadette Peters in A Little Night Music and Follies, Carrie Fisher in Wishful Drinking, and the original production of The Book of Mormon.
5. Heard jazz at Tivoli Gardens.
6. Chatted with Ellis Larkins at the Carnegie Tavern.
7. Had cocktails with Ralph Bellamy and his wife.
8. Watched the fireworks at the annual Fête de Genève from a friend's balcony.
9. Learned to use a computer.
10. Wrote a novel.
11. Saw JFK in person on the Senate floor.
12. Started two theatre companies.
13. Dined at Lutece, Taillevent, and Commander’s Palace (when Emeril Lagasse was chef).
14. Shook Jacqueline Kennedy’s soft hand at the Metropolitan Museum of Art.
15. Visited Rome and London by myself.
16. Flew to Paris for a weekend with a lover I hadn’t seen in 30 years.
17. Interviewed two American Ambassadors to Switzerland.
18. Started three blogs.
19. Raised a beautiful daughter who is one of my favorite people in the world.
20. Created a character called "Grandmama" for two really special young men.
So it's mostly coming down on the plus side of the ledger. I'm not finished yet, not by a long shot, but as I started on the lists the good stuff kept coming to me. I can continue the lists, but let me suggest something to you, my reader: Make a list or two of your own, and share them with us on the comment page here. I'd love to hear what you've done in your life, what you've avoided doing, and which you're proudest of.